Typically I am pretty positive, generally speaking. I will be getting married in 4 days officially tying the knot with my fiance who i just refer to as my husband. Here I was planning a “low key” wedding, and managed to stress myself out right to the maximum level possible. So how can YOU bounce yourself out of the I want to scream kick and punch everyone mode before your wedding? Hopefully some of my tips will help you, they’re helping me.
1. Take a deep breath, or ten of them. Most of what you’re stressing out about are tasks that cannot be completed until 1-2 days before the wedding. Don’t have a panic attack over where to place the center pieces on your tables, you can’t do that today anyway. Relax. Take a breath. (taking own advice, breathing)
2. Stop yelling at everyone around you. Don’t shake your head at me, you know, and I know you’ve yelled at at least one or two people. This doesn’t mean you’re a bridezilla (which I hate that term), this just means you are stressed to the max. Refer to step #1, breathe.
3. Ask for help. If you’re anything like me you have a serious problem asking people for help. You’d rather just run around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to make everything work that simply cannot work without help. If someone offers to help you with something, take them up on the offer, immediately. Don’t feel like you’re putting them out, you aren’t, they offered, and you accepted.
4. Don’t take on too much. This is super hard. I took on way way way too much when planning this wedding. I had some image of super woman cooking, cleaning, and DIY up a storm the last few days before the wedding. Uhm newsflash days before your wedding every color and exact anything you cared so much about 2 months ago suddenly does not matter one bit. Someone says do you want “white table clothes or ivory” your answer is going to be “either one is fine” because the thought of making one more decision is going to push you over the edge. Back away from the edge, back away, let the person helping make a decision.
5.Don’t forget to enjoy this. I am telling myself about 30 times a day to remember to enjoy this. Remember the feeling you had when your fiance proposed and how excited you both were to start this journey. Keep all this in mind when you’re ready to explode on every living being within sight. Remember the wedding is just one day, the marriage is forever. Don’t let yourself get too hung up on all the little silly details. I know this is hard, I’m reminding myself of this as I write this piece of advice for you.
My wedding is literally 4 days from today. I will follow this up with a “how I kept my cool and enjoyed my day” type blog post for you after the big day. Remember your wedding day is incredibly important, but so is your sanity so keep it and don’t yell at everyone whose helping you out.